Teenagers Need: Parental Guidance or Freedom

Today’s teenagers have more freedom, in each and every matter when compared to previous generations. In the personal matters, educational and professional, and parents have also become quite understanding in the matters of their teenage children. But what is this freedom giving them and where is it leading them? Is a question we have to ask ourselves?

Taking the opinion of the children in matters of choosing their profession and career is a good thing to do, but even in that matter when they need parental guidance we must do so. But what about matters that are personal, I think this is where most of the parents and teenagers have clash. And these are the matters where generations gaps come in. In previous generations, there was nothing personal.

But now we hear it too much, what is this personal space giving our children and where is it leading them? As there are two sides of every coin so is here, freedom is good and giving personal space is good but when is the question? This is an age where children think they know everything and they can be on their own, but this is the time when they need parental guidance and supervision more. Because, this is age where it is easy for them to get distracted, diverted, and get carried away by the glitters and fantasies of the world.

Being parents it is our duty to know when to give them choice and freedom and when not in what matters they need freedom and ion what matters they need choice? Some parents are too strict with their teenage children not leaving choice to them even in matters of food and clothes, this is not good. And some parents are too liberal with their children leaving all the choices to them and giving them all the freedom of the world, without guiding them and supervising them, this is not good also.

Freedom at proper place and proper time with a proper reason is what teenagers need. And this is what parents should give them they should give them freedom but, also guide them, correct them and supervise them. Only then freedom will have some meaning and fulfillment of the purpose.

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Parental Guidelines

Along with personal goals and ambitions, is equally and more important role that we play as a parent. It is for the future of the family and the kids that we love so much, we have our dreams, to see them well off, we can we give them our property, but to see them as well behaved and good humans, we need to give our time.

Here are some simple guidelines that can enhance our role as parents:

Always encourage your children to give their best in everything, don’t ever tell them, that this is not possible. Encourage them to be big dreamers.

Children learn more by observing, when you teach them something and do something else yourself, then know, so walk your talk, and check yourself before asking them to do anything or not to do anything.

The more important role that we play as a parent is to be their mentor, we are the ones who are responsible to shape them, as proper human beings, and we are accountable to them for their future, so just don’t take your role for granted, you have the future of a person, another human beings life, in your hands.

Children see and know the world through the eyes of a parent, so we need to be very careful about what we teach them, what kind of view; we are giving them, of the world, and the persons around. To do all this we should be in the right track and should be living what we are teaching them, let it be by our behavior or otherwise.

So, to develop and evolve ourselves to be a better person and human being is very important for us to be better parents, because our children are our reflections.

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