Smile A Rare Commodity in Today’s World

By G. Gayathri

We keep hearing about the scarcity of water, food and other things above all these things there is a severe scarcity of the unseen but most precious and important things in today’s life and world those are, smile, peace of mind and happiness. Most of the times we see only long faces, and rarely a smiling and pleasant and peaceful face.

Yes, every one born as human in this earth thrives only for these things, but today man’s priorities have changed and so these unseen and most valuable and essential things have become a rare commodity. Among all the creatures that God has created only humans can smile. But still we find it hard to do it even once a day.

Marketing people stick smile on their faces because they cannot accomplish anything without that. A child smiles because that is his nature and he needs no reason or need to do that. Most of the times we stick a smile on our face only when we have to or need to, but when was the last time we smiled because we genuinely felt like smiling.

There is definitely one thing that is true that if we need reasons to smile and reasons to feel happy that is a rare thing to happen. Because life is a road with many twists and turns and it is always not possible that you are blessed with that situations and the kind of people that make you happy and make you smile.

But there is definitely one thing we can do that is to genuinely try to be happy and to genuinely try to smile because only fools can wait for the right time and the right reason to smile and to be happy. Even the research has proved that if you practice or keep smiling many times in a day you will naturally feel happy and positive, though it is not natural, what we usually do is we smile when we are happy or very peaceful. But if you want to be happy and peaceful keep smiling, this is what the research says.

So, don’t wait for the right situation or the right time to smile, keep smiling and things will turn out to be right.

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Top 5 Guidelines as to How We Should Live Life?

All of us have goals and dreams to achieve in life and which play a very important role in molding our life. But there are also guide lines that are common in every one’s life and which every human should know and try to follow. Let us have a look at them.

1. Purpose of Life:
Know the purpose of human life and fulfill that purpose.  Living a life without purpose is just a life, that has not life at all in it. Leading a life should with an aim or goal, and may fail due to having a aimless life or they are in a situation compelled to live like that only. When situations haunt, many become prey to their life leaving the original goal of life. That says, when you simple adopt the situation without struggling for it, it will become your life.

2. Your Ability:
Know and discover the abilities that God has blessed you with and utilize them for the benefit of mankind. Recognizing own ability is the best thing one realizes very late, and that is fact indeed. Ability to do many things or multiple tasks is the efficiency that everybody does not have. When you stand by any person to help out with your own ability, then simply follow the rule that you are not going to get the same treatment you bestowed. That says, your ability is to help others but personal.

3. No Regrets:
Live life in such a way that when you are in your last moments you have no regrets. Live today as if there is not tomorrow, and your are not going to get the time to undo your deeds. Regrets make you down, when you have time or opportunity, simply believe in your efforts to perform for the noble shake.





4. Become a Leader:
We should live life in a way that people feel sad about the fact that we are no more, but they should not feel happy about the fact that you are no more. When you depart for a final journey, millions should follow he ways for your final journey. People always do remember leaders and their contributions towards society.

5. Help Others: 
Our life should not be limited to family members and four walls it should go beyond that. Helping mankind is the greatest job, and helping others is the best thing one should do.

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Enjoy What You Have But Aspire to Enhance

It has been a proven theory that contentment is the basic requirement to lead a peaceful and happy life. Because, until and unless you put a full stop to your list of goals and desires your running behind them will not stop and in the process of achieving them you lose the enjoyment of what you have now.

There is also another well proven fact that, until there is aspiration or desire there is no progress. Even in case of spirituality only when you have set a goal and work towards achieving it you have progress, otherwise you remain where you are.


So, which is good, to be contended with what we have or to aspire for more and to be a part of race that knows no end.

Well the secret is to strike a balance between the both, and lead a peaceful life enjoying all the things that are there now and to keep working for those that you are yet to achieve so that you keep progressing.

If your discontentment is for your betterment and for the betterment of the others it is good to be discontent. If you are unhappy about the way things are and aspire to change them and give a new direction it is good to be discontent.

Big people, successful people, great leaders of all times, they aspired for more and did not stop working progressing.

So, cherish and enjoy what you are blessed with now do not have any complaints about them. Think that whatever you are and how ever you are it is because of a reason and for your own betterment. Then aspire to become that which you want to and accepting the present things put your foot towards the future.

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Top 5 Qualities that Makes a Genius

There have been many point of views about being genius. Some think people are born genius, and many other feel that one can with effort become a genius. Keeping these point of views aside, there are certain qualities and thinking patterns that genius people follow.

And if any common man focuses or shifts his attention to these qualities and works out on improving those qualities and aspects even they can become genius. Let us have a look at them.

1. Genius people have good observation skills they are expert observers and apply the lessons they learn form one situation to another.

2. Genius people go deep or into the root of the problem and ask themselves right kind of questions that lead them to solutions.

3. Genius people don’t stick to routine and same thinking, they think and analyze from various point of views.

4. Genius people live in the very present and in the very moment. They focus all their energies and attention in the present moment and in what they are doing.

5. Genius people never hesitate to have kind of thinking pattern that ordinary people consider crazy or just impossible.

So, these are the factors that make genius a genius and if we intend to become so, we have to focus on improving those qualities and aspects. Go ahead and give it a try.

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Some Myths and Realities about our Outlook towards Life

By our own real life experiences and by hearing from those of others. We come to some conclusions that life is like this, things are like this people are like this. But the actual facts that are proven by science are very different from what we assume as true. Knowing these facts will help us move in a positive direction ad progress in life. Let us throw some light on those facts.

1. Many of us feel that life is tough and a hard path to take, but in reality life has more positive events in store for us than the negative ones. But why it does not manifest so is because our brain most of the time tends to focus on negativity rather than positive events. So we need to see the other side the positive side to prosper.

2. We think that if we need to be successful we need to be serious about the thing, but in reality the more relaxed and sportive attitude you have towards life, the more you will be successful.

3. We believe that remembering our weaknesses and minuses will help us to grow. But in fact if we ponder over a long time on our negatives they will pull us down. Instead we should try to accept them as a part and go in increasing or building our positive traits.

4. It is another illusion that to succeed in this modern and competitive age we need to think about ourselves. On the contrary the more we develop understanding and compassion the more we prosper in our ways. The more we give to others the more we get.

5. To be more productive we think we need to devote each and every minute of our time to work, but the reality is that the more time you give yourself to relax and recharge the better you will be able to perform.

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10 Best Ways to Live a Full Life

Every human born on this earth wants to live a full and complete life, he wants to be happy and at peace. But rarely there are few people who live a life like that. Most of the time most of the people experience grief and pain, we think other people and circumstances are responsible for our fate and our life.

We find it easy to give up our life’s reins to someone else and accept life as it is. But we find it hard to take life our own life into our own hands and mould it the way we want it.

The day, we start taking this responsibility of our self on our self our life will take a turn for betterment. Let us study some of the ways that will help us lead a full and complete life.

1. Life is a present to those learn to live in the ‘Present’. Because the two things past and future are out of your hands and it is only in the present that you can lead a happy and peaceful life and give shape to a better tomorrow if it exists.

2. Accepting life as it is, the people, circumstances everything about your life. This does not mean that you should not try to change for better, accept the present as it is and then instead of resisting and regretting try to correct yourself and change yourself.

3. No human in this world is perfect everyone has a weakness and a strength. So stop blaming yourself and accept yourself as you are with all your plus and minus points and then try to overcome them and correct them.

4. Don’t confine yourself to the routine road try and explore unknown ways and be sportive and adventurous. Stop living and thinking like a preprogrammed machine, doing the same things, living life the same way.

5. Most of the people spend life criticizing others and blaming others for each and every thing. But when the same people leave or depart from them they realize, may be they were not that bad maybe I should have behaved better with them, shown love to them. So, lead life with this understanding each and every moment.

6. Find out the prime reason or purpose of life because that is what makes your life, life in a real sense.

7. Many people fail in life because they cannot strike a balance in life, balancing of emotions, exercising self control and will. All these things help you in leading a balanced life which in turn leads to a full life.

8. Practice giving and sharing. Sharing your skills and knowledge giving your time, or services or money to someone in need.

9. Focus your energies on the positive aspects of life. Think, read, hear and do good positive and good things.

10. Whole of the life we spend listening to others, make it a habit to listen to the whispers of your heart and soul and try to follow them, only then your life will be ‘full’ and complete.

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Way to Ever Lasting Happiness

If there is one thing that the entire humanity would agree on it would be that every human born in this earth has only one desire and that is to be happy always and to lead a happy life. Many people run after material things and persons thinking that happiness lies there in those things or with those persons.

But all these things, persons, or situations give temporary happiness, happy only for that moment when we achieve or have those things or persons with us. The moment they depart from us we become unhappy again, our happiness becomes conditional. Conditioned by persons, things, and places.

Well, in such a case is it ever possible to be happy always, under all circumstances, where ever we are and however we are. Yes, if we take a step towards materiality to spirituality. Because this is where we know our real self, coming out of this false I and mine. And when this happens we find that what we think as I does not exist and all that exists is one consciousness.

If you think, oh! This is not possible this is some high level stuff, not for us; even then there is another way. That is to live a life where in you don’t expect anything from anyone, yes because only when you expect anything from anyone will you be disappointed or unhappy. Another way is to cut down on desires, the less desires you have the more peaceful and happy life you will lead.

But the most and the easiest way to lead a happy life is to treat others as you wish to be treated and to show love towards all life, not limiting your love only to humans. Because this is the real way to everlasting happiness.

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Happiness: Small Reasons Matters Much

What makes many annoyed all the time, might a damn care thing for others, right? Simple, different personalities do feel and see thing in their ways, least bothering about the contrary view.

So it isn’t the fault of the other person, whom you think that person always in negative or critic of your opinion.

Really, that is not the big thing, but to accept the core concept, many do fail there leaving themselves in the absurdity of feelings.

Never, gauge a situation that has been annoying in haste. You might reach a wrong conclusion. The fact is that, there are many silly reasons could fuel to big problems.

Yes, many do believe in this simple reason, we do often make a big fight over simple things. Why, because, no one is interested to let go things and live peaceful.

If there are no issues in a day, then there must be a compulsion to make our mind too busy in intriguing mind to track all the silly reasons to make a big conclusion from there.

Here, popular saying goes right – empty mind is devil’s home. No matter if the saying is not as exact it is…but the meaning is somewhat making it complete.

And the simple causes are the big player in mind leaving us unhappy, despite the mind need a peace at any cost.

Next comes, the Ego, ‘I am Factor’ in life that is the base for all the thoughts that keep you from happiness.

No need to consider a meditation classes to end your ‘I am Factor’, from where a new life is waiting for you. But there to your ego is eroding your goals you set forth.

Yes, it is fact that you can let go the simple things but, start from the beginning to overlook, one day you may be able to check the big problems caused by these and ego.

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Positive Side of Pain

Avoiding pain, perhaps this is one thing, any human would want to do we all want to avoid pain at any cost. Let it be physical pain or mental pain, none of us want to lead a painful life. But the truth is that we learn the life’s most important lessons only when we are in pain, and we learn to recognize the pain of others only when we have experienced it.

To avoid physical pain we try buying things for our comfort, like using all the machines, let it be a bike, car, or Ac all these are created for our physical comfort and to avoid pain at the physical level. As long as we see through the closed glasses of our cars we don’t know the pain that a common man under goes so we make fun of him and ill treat him. But a day comes when you have to work hard even for a rupee, and are prepared to do anything for it. That day you realize the difficulty of a common man.

Physical pain may be avoided by using more and more machines to work for us. But mental pain, every one experience at one stage or the other, pain of losing a job, pain of ill health, pain of losing a dear one and the list is endless. But the life’s most important lessons you learn only in these phases, you know who your true friends and well wishers are when you are in difficulties.

When you see someone falling sick in your family, you learn that you need to be careful about your health and your dear one’s health. When you lack finances you learn the value of money and its importance in life, you mould your attitude towards it and you prosper never repeating the mistake again. So, there is something for us to learn and grow in life from pain. So, next time when we experience some kind of pain dig deep into the reason, learn from it and grow, because this is the positive side of the pain.

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Our Ancient Scriptures a true source of Inspiration for today’s Human

It would not be wrong if we say today hardly any of us “Live Life”. The fact is that, for most of us life has become a struggle, a day to day battle, in the concrete jungle. It is no wonder that we read news about students committing suicide, farmers committing suicide, employees committing suicide and the list goes on.

What is it that we lack today, that is making taking us to this level of hating life and choosing death instead? In the material terms today we are well advanced than our parents and grandparents, we use latest equipment at personal level and professional level to make our life easy and well going.

Our Parents and grandparents never knew the comfort of moving around in AC cars or going went on a holiday nor did they have any of the comforts that we enjoy today. But they were happy and lead a happy life; they even very well managed to bring up a generation of humans with spiritual and human values. What gave them the strength to cope up with life’s up’s and downs?

They never studied any of the self development books or management books, but still they managed to be good humans. What we lack today and what made them stand in life that day is our great Scriptures and spiritual way of life. They too had role models to look up to and to learn from and to imitate, but the difference is today we choose billionaires, millionaires and material wise successful people as our role models.

They instead choose the great Avatara purushas Rama and others as their role models. If we study the life of Lord Rama He is Perfect example as a son, as a student, as a ruler, he was born to rule but never had any greed for power. He happily went to forest leaving all the comforts and taking stand for truth and Dharma. His life was full of challenges and problems yet every time he took stand for what is right.

The truth gave him the strength. Likewise if we study the great epic Mahabharata, on one side we see the people who stand for truth and the other side we see selfish people whose only aim is to secure power at any cost. The Pandavas though born in the Kings family spent most of the time in forest, faced all kinds of possible troubles, but they always followed the path of truth and followed their inner voice and had all the good virtues. On the contrary kauravas enjoyed all the material comforts but were they at peace with themselves or with others we all know the answer.

If we study those scriptures and their life what is it that we cannot learn? We can learn to be patient and forgiving even when we have a reason to get angry. We can learn that if we follow the path of truth we can be happy where ever we are and as whatever we are. But on the other hand though we live life king size enjoying all the comforts, if our thoughts are not in the right direction and you choose the path that is not truth, then life is no life just a punishment.

So, living in today’s society to lead a happy and contended life we need to look back to our past study the life’s of great people. And then take them as our role model, a person who is a total human being in all aspects and in all the roles. Then, when we compare our life to those people’s life our life looks so small and our problems look silly. Then when you hold the hand of truth and listen to your inner voice, life becomes a pleasant and memorable journey.

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No Panacea for the Problems You Have

The fact can’t be denied that there is no panacea for all our problems. We wish if there could one single way solutions to all the existing problems, but hardly do there any such thing in existence.

Problems do disturb you, but the big question is how you are going to cope with the situation. When it comes to finding the proper solution, one should understand and study the problem and its root cause.

There are many ways to find solution and meditation is one of those, but it is also not a panacea for your problems. The interesting thing about the problem in life it is ongoing process in life like our wants.

Wants are root cause for your problems, right? Yes, the more wants you have the more problems you are going to face. Human wants are unlimited so as the problems. The more you want to satisfy your wants, the more you involve and that is sure to trigger the problems in life.

There is no specific definition for problem; it is depending on the individual perception. A problem would look small to one whereas the same could be a gigantic for others.

The problems are inevitable in the process of life and beauty as well.

Try on to give hard try to solve your problem, since in short span of time, it is almost impossible to solve all the problems you have with one panacea.

Coming to financial problem, that would be much tenser for all including elite people. While dealing with financial problem is not a cup of tea for all. For that a bit of planning and courage are required.

Whatever problems you have in life, do not allow those to toll on your happiness and lifestyle. There need a perfect strike of balance between problem and the way you live happiness. And also never overlook the problems, which could lead to disaster.

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Who is Wise, By the Way?

There are many people you come across believing them wise by virtue, needless to say the suggestion would well enough to make a you a perfect person – literally meaning – A Wise Man.

The simple logic behind considering other person wise is that the first person looks at his negative qualities. And start comparing his negative qualities with the other person’s good qualities, where he or she reached at conclusion that himself or herself not good or wise.

The comparison of good with bad is always give negative thought or impression. And that actually damages the confidence of the person, who considers that he is not wise enough.

Always considering own negative thoughts is bad and it would worse if other person start counting your bad qualities. Whatever may be the situation, never consider the other person completely good or bad because it is obvious that everybody make mistakes.

Lest considering the logic, if you see other persons are good enough, then you might not have that much problem, anyway related.

Your problem is associated with the community your living in and if all the persons in the community good. Except you- no chance at all.

One popular saying goes like this – A person who makes no mistake can’t do anything.

That is not saying that knowingly you should do mistakes, interesting thing about mistake is that is unpredicted and unprecedented.

More interesting thing about it that, after it happened, you’d come to know that you made a mistake. And past is powerful since you can undo it. So plan to not to repeat it, that’s all.

Take the good suggestions from others, and if you dare ask them if they implemented in their life and what results they oriented.

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Your Happiness Lies in Others Happiness

If you want happiness for an hour – take a nap
If you want happiness for a day – go fishing
If you want happiness for a month – get married
If you want happiness for a year – inherit a fortune
If you want happiness for a lifetime – help others

- Chinese Proverb

Along with time all human minds have changed to an extent where in we are hardly thinking of anyone else, except our self and our family. We are always thinking of the ways as to how we can be benefitted by the other person, or how we can make use of the other person.

Hardly ever we think of a reason as to how we can help others and how we can add value to the life of others. We hardly think as to how using my resources I can help this person progress. We all have goals to achieve professional and personal and we are always worried as to how we can achieve them.

But some where being carried away by these thoughts we are forgetting the fact that, as social beings we have a duty towards others also to help them with their goals and dreams in life. If we study the life of successful people, on their way to personal success they also helped other people progress either as a person or in their profession.

They never waited for a time when they will attain name, fame and stature to help others in their way to progress. Along with working on their own success they made sure that there were there for others who needed them.

This is a lesson we all need to learn from those people, real success, and real happiness lies in helping others progress and achieve success. Any fool can work for his own prosperity and happiness but it takes a man of character and value to think of others progress as well.

So, if we want to be happy always under all circumstances in life shift your thinking from I to you. See how you can keep the people around you happy and prosper and add value to others life, because this is how you add value to your own life.

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Book Review: Men Are from Mars Women Are from Venus

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, is a book written by famous American author and Relationship Counselor, John Gray. This book has spent 121 weeks on the bestseller list and has sold more than 50 million copies worldwide.

This Book deals with the most common relationship problems between men and women. The author states that these differences are because of the fundamental differences between the male and the female genders.

In this book John provides a unique and practical way to both, men and women, to communicate with each other better and to relate with each other better, by understanding the fundamental differences between them.

This book will help you to interpret your partner’s behavior; will help you to understand the differences in communication styles, modes of behavior and emotional needs. In my opinion this book plays the role of a good counselor, and helps in clearing most the common misunderstandings, in a marital relationship. And will help the couple to understand each other and improves the overall relationship.

If some one’s marital relationship is not that good this book will help in stabilizing the relationship and shows ways to increase the bonding and love between both. If you are already enjoying the fruits of a good relationship, reading this book will help you to strengthen your bond even more.

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A New Definition for Service and Help

There was a time when the meaning of service and help was focused on others. But now with the changing times, the definition of service and help has changed.

The focus has shifted from others to self, today we say I give my services to the company and I get paid for my services, you go to a restaurant and there it is written self help.

Is this a change in the meaning of the words or the change in the mind set of the people? Is this a representation of the people belonging to the New World, whose focus is entirely on the self?

Help and Service are the words that have changes many people’s lives; these are the words that are a source of inspiration to many.

Help and service are the words that have given a direction to the life of many people and evolved them to the divine level from mere humans.

There is nothing wrong in using these words for the self, but we should not get drowned in this so deeply that we are on our way of forgetting its original meaning.

Let us try to shift our focus from the self, a bit, to our fellow beings and life. Let us at least once in a while, remember the true meaning of the words “Help and Service” and try to put into practice in our life.

We are leading a life in the changing world, changing time; we are surrounded by people who have a new mind set and attitude. Better or worse we know better, it is always welcome and good to have an adaptive attitude, but we should not forget our roots and the truth.

Let us once again remember the true meaning of Help and Service and try to live it, because we ‘Humans’.

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What Matters in Life? Practical Knowledge or Theory

Many of the times in life we learn in life by reading, reading during student life, reading about the life of great people when we become young. But most of the life’s valuable lessons and unforgettable lessons we learn only from experience. What we may read we may forget, but what we learn from experience lives with us till our last breath. It not only helps us to go-ahead with life it even helps other to learn, when we share our experiences with others.

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Roots of Happiness

What ever we do in life, all our aims, ambitions, goals everything revolves around one thing. Happiness, behind everything that we do in life there is one simple reason, we want to be happy. This is not just for one time; we want to be happy always. And so, there is no end for the struggle that we under go, throughout the life, because we just want to be happy forever.

Where is the address of happiness? Well, happiness has a different definition for each person. If happiness lies in one thing all the persons should go after one thing, but it is not so. Some people find happiness in wine, some in food, and some in women. Some people are happy when they achieve high position in career and in life. Some are happy when they posses things they want, some, when they have accumulated all the money they have wanted.

But how long this happiness stays? Till the next desire pops up, the moment you revise your goals, priorities, run starts again. So, happiness lies in our feeling of possessing what we have wanted or in our association with the people we want to be or when we are in a kind of situation we have wanted to be. So, where do the roots of the happiness lie, it lies in our feeling, feeling of being happy.

What most of us tend to think is that when we achieve our big goals, dreams and when we have fulfilled our duties we will be happy, but the reality is not so. If we wait for a time or a situation or a person or a thing to make us happy, we have to keep waiting. Life is too short to keep waiting for things to happen, and when we want big things to happen in our life to make us happy, it takes too long for things to happen and half our life is lost in our pursuit of being happy.

So, the roots of happiness lie in being happy each and every second of our life. No one knows about the next moment. So, we should not depend on outside things for happiness, we should be happy the way we are, and with what we are. Living each moment to its fullest, here lies the root of our happiness. Within ourselves, within our own heart.

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